I read on someones t-shirt when I was laying poolside at a Goa Resort spa on our honeymoon , ‘The Cause of Divorce is Marriage”. That made me laugh out loud and I looked over to my husband at the time, to see if he enjoyed that statement as much as I did and he didn’t seem to appreciate my sense of humor. He said marriage is sacred and should not be made fun of in any form. Needless to say, our sacred marriage only last 2 years. I look back at the day he made that statement and I wondered to myself how on earth could I have married someone with no sense of humor?
I’m now on my Third honeymoon with my third husband sitting at the restaurant in Goa when we couldn’t help but over-hear a younger couple sitting next to us having an heated hushed argument over whether or not he should order the surf-n-turf because, from what me and my new husband could over-hear, the young man’s doctor had told him to cut out all rich foods in order to keep his diabetes in check. The young wife was giving him a list as to why her husband should not order the Lobster and he was giving her a list as to why her opinion of what he can and cannot order doesn’t matter to him. “Whoa”, I said under my breath, “that was a nasty thing to say”. My husband just gave me a look of surprise, “She has no right to tell him what he can and cannot eat”, he said under his breath and gave me a look that I’d better not contradict his statement.
I’m single now and have come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t all that’s it’s cracked up to be, it isn’t all ‘that’. And to be truthful, I’m finding being single living in Goa and being able to just enjoy the men I now date, with no expectations of future commitments to each other, to be quite fun. More fun than marriage.